Some find it difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel when a marriage ends. The longer a Utah couple is together, the more their identities may be dependent on the other person — for better or worse. Sometimes, this makes it difficult to focus on what comes after the divorce process is complete.
Fear of moving forward alone can keep a person from envisioning the type of life they want after the divorce is final. Just because the relationship is ending does not mean that a person should not look forward to a new beginning. How the divorce process is handled can be the first step toward that new life.
Many people find they are healthier, happier and more secure in themselves once the marriage is over. An unhappy, tumultuous marriage can taint everything a person feels, says and does. Some Utah couples actually get along better once they are divorced than when they were together. Regaining a sense of self that is not reliant on another person often provides a clarity that puts the relationship into a perspective that may not have been possible during the marriage.
The realization that a better life could be around the corner may make the divorce proceedings progress more smoothly. Working together to come to a settlement that best allows both parties to start their new lives off right could also pave the way for a post-divorce relationship, which may be particularly important if the couple has children. Nothing mandates that divorce has to be a bad experience. Sometimes, people simply discover that they are no longer compatible as husband and wife.
Source: The Huffington Post, Positive Outcomes of Divorce, Dr. Gail Gross, Feb. 11, 2014