Utah residents who keep up with celebrity divorces most likely already know that Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner are ending their marriage. Instead of going out in dramatic Hollywood fashion, they have chosen to keep their divorce amicable by using mediation to resolve their issues. A joint statement released by Affleck and Garner indicated that they came to this decision in order to protect their children.
Avoiding the emotional trauma that divorce can cause to the children is the goal of many Utah couples who are contemplating divorce. Fortunately, it is possible to lessen the emotional fallout that often accompanies a contentious divorce. The parties can choose to negotiate their own settlement with the help of their attorneys and/or a mediator. This process fosters communication and compromise, both of which will be needed post-divorce in order to continue to be loving parents.
Children often benefit from watching their parents work together for a common goal, even as they go their separate ways. There is no way to avoid the divorce affecting them, but the actions of their parents during this time can make a difference in how they deal with it. Except in cases of abuse, they deserve to have both parents in their lives.
Getting a divorce is never easy, but each party’s actions will have an impact on the other and the children. If they are able, the parties can be the architects of their separate futures, along with their future with their children. Both parties could walk away feeling satisfied that they constructed a settlement themselves without having a judge decide their futures — and their children’s futures — for them.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Divorce Without Court: Ben and Jen Prevent a Divorce War“, Michael Aurit, JD, MDR, Sept. 10, 2015