When Utah residents decide to end their marriages, they may have many ideas about what the upcoming court proceedings will hold. It is certainly important to have goals when it comes to divorce outcomes, but it is also important to make sure that those goals are reasonable. If parties try to pursue unrealistic outcomes or have ulterior motives, cases can quickly become complicated.
For instance, if individuals want to use their court proceedings as a way to seek revenge, they may only be setting themselves up for unnecessary difficulties. Typically, the court does not give favor to a person who believes he or she was wronged in the marriage. Even if a spouse cheated, it is unlikely that the court would award any additional benefits to the “wronged” spouse unless the cheating spouse significantly damaged the couple’s finances in the course of the affair.
Using the kids as another way to seek revenge is also a negative route to follow. Children often need both parents in their lives, even after a divorce. If one parent tries to seek sole custody unnecessarily or tries to poison the kids against the other parent, the children may end up suffering the most. Plus, it makes custody cases more difficult than they may have to be.
Certainly, feeling wronged in a marriage can cause a great deal of emotional turmoil. However, it may make more sense to find other ways to address that turmoil than by seeking revenge during the divorce proceedings. It may seem like making the situation more difficult on the other parties would be worth it, but in the end, Utah residents may only make life more difficult on themselves.