Many Utah parents who are ending their marriages might be concerned that they will somehow make mistakes that will damage their children mentally in the years to come. Parenting during good times can be a challenge, but doing so after a divorce can seem like an insurmountable task. A child custody agreement can help avoid some common mistakes that well-intentioned parents make post-divorce.
Emotions are of at an all-time high during a divorce. It is said that there is a fine line between love and hate, and many people might say that realization came during a divorce. Putting aside those emotions in order to do what is best for the children can be a challenge, but it is a task that most Utah parents strive to conquer.
When the focus shifts from each other to the children, it is easier to avoid fighting in front of the children, subconsciously asking them to choose one parent over another or talking badly about the other parent in the presence of the children. A parenting plan can include an agreement between the parties that they will avoid these actions. Furthermore, the parties can include an agreement that they will communicate with each for the good of the children.
No child custody agreement can account for every eventuality, which means that parents need to be flexible and willing to communicate when needed. Accounting for at least some of the common mistakes that parents make in the aftermath of a divorce might make the transition from one household to two easier on the children. Over time, it might also make it easier for the parents to get along better as well since they will always be bound by their children.
Source: The Huffington Post, “5 Common Post Divorce Parenting Mistakes“, Hanif Virani, Feb. 19, 2016